Conflict

The Secret to handling ‘Difficult’ People

(WARNING: Your life as you know it is about to change)

“How can I handle difficult people?”

Answer – you can’t.

“Wait – what? You mean I’m stuck with them in my life?”

Answer – it all depends on how you look at it.

( Posted in: Personality Types )

Conflict always involves more than one person!

Seems obvious, doesn't it?

Yet, it's surprising to me how many people forget this.When focussed on 'who's to blame', people involved are looking for the singular person who caused it all.

Wrong!

( Posted in: Conflict Management )

Quoted in The Age on how to stop Office Gossip

For the Business section of The Age, I was interviewed to provide expert comment on the impact of office gossip - and how to put an end to it.

( Posted in: Teams )

Have you witnessed Workplace Bullying?

I saw this in Smart Company's materials ...

( Posted in: Conflict Management )

Will this make things more fair?

The Fair Work Amendment Bill 2013, which provides a new bullying jurisdiction for the Fair Work Commission (FWC), passed the Senate on 27 June.

The bullying regime, which commences on 1 January 2014, allows bullied workers to apply to the FWC for help to resolve the matter.

( Posted in: Conflict Management )

The link between workplace bullying and depression - it's real

Safe Work Australia commissioned a study on the relationship bewteen workplace bullying and the incidence of depression.

Members of the Centre for Research on Ageing, Health and Wellbeing at the Australian National University found increased prevalence of person-related and work-related bullying where respondents reported negative work characteristics such as high job demands and low job control - as well as what they call 'poor organisational culture'.

The findings are fascinating and are a must-read for all Leaders and HR Professionals.

( Posted in: Conflict Management )

Is it time to stop pretending?

You can see interesting things in the most unexpected places …

I spent last weekend in Nagambie, Victoria – lucky me … a whole weekend with female friends (and met some new ones, too) and spending time pursuing one of my favourite pastimes: scrapbooking.

( Posted in: Teams )

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Are you living your full potential?

In my work, I frequently speak with people who are disenchanted with their lives.

“I feel so frustrated … I’ve been doing the same thing at work for years and I just can’t seem to get ahead.”

“I feel lost. I know I am capable of doing more but have no idea how to achieve what I really want to do.”

“Maybe I’m just not meant to do anything else. I mean, who am I to want more?”

I find this very sad.

Why we've got to stop talking about "Work/Life Balance"!

Work/Life Balance doesn't exist - and while we continue to strive to achieve it, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment.

Why?

The phrase itself suggests a couple things that are inherent in the problem:

What does it take to achieve Work/Life Balance? (is it even possible?)

Frankly, no. It's not possible - and we are causing ourselves untold frustration and disappointment while we keep trying to achieve it!

Why do I say this?

Well, think for a minute about the phrase itself -

The Secret to handling ‘Difficult’ People

(WARNING: Your life as you know it is about to change)

“How can I handle difficult people?”

Answer – you can’t.

“Wait – what? You mean I’m stuck with them in my life?”

Answer – it all depends on how you look at it.

Your Good-Enough List (A critical Sanity-Saving Tool)

I recently attended a three-day women’s festival that I attended for the first time in 2016. It’s never the same the second, third or umpteenth time around is it? First of all, there’s that ‘first time newness’ that we can only get once. “Wow! Look at that!” “Goodness, that’s amazing!” And so on … because we are seeing things through fresh, first-time eyes.

In our subsequent visits, while we look for that same magic, but logically know it will be different than our beloved ‘first-time’. We then start to notice what’s not there that we liked the previous year(s), and lament “But I really liked that!”

So this year, I decided to focus instead on what was new, different and intriguing. And that’s how I came across The Release Tree.